Presidents are not the first, that what most newly engaged couples, if they decide to marry. But everyone who hears of any size is a marriage in due time about what visitors on the site. For some it is a necessity when visiting a site like The Knot, the 57 examples of different ways to decorate the seats resolved.
Meg Keene, the sudden emergence of the Chair of questions, including whether too expensive for Chiavari Chairs-jump was one of the absurdities that start posting unexpectedly in righteous indignation before her marriage in 2009, moved to tears after the umpteenth time about the costs and complications of trying to marry. "I have the intention to rock the chuppah in a white wedding dresses," he writes at the top in place, The Marriage of practice. "But I think that almost nothing in common with the wedding industry have, and I hate that he's trying to tell me what to do."
We all know that the wedding industry is sold: the idea that the fact that the day of a perfect marriage begins in some ways a model for everything that follows. And for those who cynically believe that there is no logic available even more important: the idea that the right decision to marry and even two people to the need to launch the biggest, the hardest part of your life , so even if things "not T does not work well, at least not an extraordinary event to prove it. The result is that leadership and the most popular sites for wedding planning, or the state of the tendency of decidedly contemporary marriage to the trivial. Consider the weekly show The New York Times column "Modern Love or check the list of the Top 10 in the fighting node marriage., as the guest list for the groom to pay as their parents stopped, how to deal with a boyfriend who does not have to care the color of clothing, and if the bride is fair to say part of the budget for a costume party, if you want to splurge on honeymoon in Bora Bora objective . "The shelving of marriage tend to reinforce the cultural idea of a woman who is the most difficult, horrible human being in the face of the Earth, revolve, because you deserve it," said Keene m ', when we spoke recently. "But it's a real rite of passage, which actually form a new family."
However, the website of Keene is almost friends, to be girlfriends, wives and starts something new, like Sassy magazine, in its heyday 90's, pre-teen girls offered afraid of seventeen: a space in the disorder of reality normalized and compared. The longest section of the site is dedicated to real-world stories of marriage, including in the budget discussion and guidance from readers who affectionately called "Graduates of the wedding," submitted to surf bilingual marriages to begin their Sign Language marriages. But the most striking messages to delve into complex and sensitive issues to deal with those family relationships, wedding planning toxic second, dealing with infertility, which regularly brilliantly Wedding airbrush the media more. Keene wrote a message on the name issue, the changes generated 624 comments, many of the women who marry are torn between their feminism and their wish to bring to the formation of a new family felt. Interfere with the supervision of a drive controller, such as any name you chose to use would be their future children, raised relief of one commentator, who had an account with the online world to discuss the question with, "It is stressful The only what we have learned so far is to stop talking about it with our friends have to say something negative about someone, because of that choice., whatever happens. "
A former off-Broadway theater producer, a job at an investment bank in San Francisco, he says, was to support her boyfriend to law school at Berkeley, Keene, began the blog with the idea that a business could . The website now attracts objects wedding photographers, jewelers independent shipping services and wedding dresses, and all Keene remains the supreme voice of the site, but also has a team of editors, regular features the write request messages from readers, all in an attractive ironic and often illustrated with photographs from the waist very well written.
Last month, a book spin-offs Keene has published, also titled A practical marriage, which organizes the collective wisdom of the page as a planning guide, personal essays with readers of the site. He spends a chapter of his book of the deconstruction of the history of ballroom weddings to develop and advocate a return to simplicity of life of the ceremonies yesterday. "It's a billion to inform us that things have always been exactly like the second, and we have to buy everything on sale has been issued, because this is how it has always done," he writes. "It turns out that the proper wedding etiquette is very indifferent to the accusations of his pocket money."
However, Keene said also by the degree to which the site was moved away from the nuts and bolts of planning the cheap wedding dresses with deep doubts about the loyalty of the family of feminism, and the conditions of modern marriage is surprised. "The website works as planning the wedding, but is growing," Keene, who has 31 years, he said. "There is nothing to decide to spend your life with someone to get to think of other options in life." Discussions on the site are all very ecumenical and welcoming you put in what marriage means to think and those who choose marriage are not for them. "The one thing I like is the devil's advocate arguments," Keene wrote in his introduction to a new position by a couple who fled. "So when we decided to explore:" Why Marriage? Question, did you know that would let alone a wedding. "
